Saturday, November 18, 2006
Be sincere and simple. Don't you remember repeating someone's (perhaps your really special someone.) admiring words over and over again, without losing the boost they give? Mark Twain once said that he could live for two months on just one good compliment. But, there is more to a compliment than flattery. An insincere compliment may sweeten the tongue, but it also sours the stomach. A flowery phrase is usually unnecessary. Simple but sincere compliments will do.
Be sensitive to the time and place. A word spoken in right circumstances can have a tremendous impact on the life of a person. Even a little nod of acknowledgement given deftly, at the right moment, can stir a soul. If you are watching the NBA, PBA, or even an ordinary basketball game, you'll see players wink or nod to each other whenever they score after receiving the ball.
Recall your personal examples of struggle. Some of us may always believe that successful people never made any mistakes, but that's not so. Anyone facing dificulty needs to be reminded that challenges and failures haunt us all, on any given time. Nobody's perfect, after all.
Take time. Any unthinking compliments of ecncouragements won't do. These compliments do not have the power to move, even when they are really meant. A real encouragement is much like a well-written letter, prepared and thought over before sealing and sending.
Encouragement is simple. It may be a single word, a compliment, or even a pep talk. Take a look around you. Pick someone out. Then, just give them the best you've got. There is no need for a sermon or a special advice: just fine words of encouragement.
The right words, at the right time, can work wonders. Always remember that.